What is Self-Love?
I was recently invited to be a guest on Bold Radio and we had such fun talking about how to create more happiness and joy in our lives. Much of the discussion was around Self-Love and what that term actually means on a day-to-day basis.
As much as I enjoyed the show, there simply was not enough time to get down to the nitty gritty of the topic. I thought what better way to do so than in today’s blog!
It is one of my favourite topics anyway and not only do I enjoy raising my vibration through writing like this, I love that your own vibration may be lifted as you read and resonate with the words!
Because you deserve to be the very best! You deserve to shine and live your life with passion and excitement.
We all have a greater purpose to fulfil during our time here on earth. Every situation, circumstance, event and encounter, has the potential to move you toward fulfilling your Life’s Purpose.
Self-Love creates a clear channel for you to flow intuitively and in harmony with your life’s purpose.
When your life is on purpose you’re sure to experience good health, energy and enthusiasm for life, fulfilling and supportive relationships, freedom to express your creativity and a deep sense of well-being and peace.
Self-Love is the journey that takes you there. Read more at Oprah.com
It puts you at the centre of your Universe and creates a space where YOU matter. Embracing the concept of Self-Love starts with claiming the real you and unleashing your gifts and talents in an authentic way.
Self-Love therefore is fundamental to your entire being because everything you do and everything you are sits at the cornerstone of Self-Love. The more love you give to yourself, the more you have to spread around!
And when you operate from the level of Self-Love, it is imbued in your words, actions and intentions. Kindness comes easily, love flows freely because you are in sync with the omnipresent energy of the Universe.
Self-Love supports your dreams and endows you with wings to soar to the furthest reaches leaving the mediocre and self-imposed limitations behind.
Self-Love feeds and nurtures the seeds of greatness within you and as you grow you become the unstoppable power that lives your mission, no mater what life throws at you.
It gives you permission to be fearless in the face of adversity, challenge, difficulties and uncertainties. Self-Love therefore lays the framework for Inner Strength to thrive so that you can overcome such transient moments in your life.
It means that you don’t short-change yourself but instead honour and remain true to who you are.
Self-Love and Vulnerability
Self-Love undoubtedly has the quality of unstoppable, strong, confident, fearless and whatever adjective that captures its essence. But there is another quality that is just as deserving with equal power: Being Vulnerable!
There I said it! 🙂
Some women don’t like to think of themselves as being vulnerable because it is erroneously associated with being wet and weak.
This could not be further from the truth.
As well as being a process you should practice daily Self-Love is also a state of Being. A state of Being that is synonymous with the free-flowing abundant energy of the Universe.
When birds fly they are gracefully carried by their wings to the desired destination. There’s no pulling, tugging or forcing. They don’t impose sanctions or conditions or question the process before they take off. They simply spread their wings and fly, they don’t worry that there’s nothing to hold onto!
When you render yourself vulnerable, you open a doorway that connects you to the exact same supporting energy of the Universe. You let go! And the isms and schisms that defined your world, dissolve effortlessly!
You no longer fear rejection or need the approval of others. What they think of you is not your concern. Not in a hand on hip, neck-rolling, ‘I don’t give a damn what you think’ kind of way! Rather a gracious acceptance of what is and not your interpretation or demand of what you think it should be.
Resistance releases its chokehold and sets you free. You are in sync with the wind beneath your wings.
It is why allowing yourself to be vulnerable is perhaps the grandest expression of inner strength ~ there’s simply nothing to hold on to!
A child-like persona is reborn and with complete faith, you celebrate the delights of life with simple awe and wonder.
You may not know where you are going but as long as you spread your wings, the wind will carry you there.
You are free to love and free to be loved. This is Self-Love in its purest expression! Read Maria Shriver’s thought on vulnerability.
When you look around what do you see? Do people appear happy? Are they living their dream or lives on purpose? Are they healthy, wealthy and living to the fullest potential?
If we’re living in the same world, the answer is probably no!
Read more and discover some of the root causes of society’s unhappiness.
Most people are not excited about their lives. Their bane is the mundane! They are trapped in a bad nightmare of monotony that numbs their senses and dims their vision.
They have neither inner or external power and often live from a fear-based perspective. From their eyes, the world seems dark and dismal. They are afraid to let go and let the magic flow in, out and around them.
Sadly most people have given up on their hopes and dreams and have become disempowered and detached. The sparkle they once had has faded in to the dull, doom and gloom that has become their life. Read more about the why’s of giving up on your dreams
As grim as this may sound, there are too many people who live in a world of black and white, instead of living it in full HD colour! 🙂
The first part of developing Self-Love therefore is often about overcoming the fears and false ideas you hold about your self. The False Evidence that Appears Real to you and sadly shapes the distorted view of who you are and how you see the world. Read more
It is about letting go of the blocks, doubts and uncertainties that have kept you in bondage, limitation and lack and prevents you from claiming your truth. I write more about this here
The programming of your mind has fed your inner demons and supported your self-sabotaging efforts and decisions.
It’s way past time to change the cassettes and throw away the worn out filters of your mind and just about everything else that does not honour and value your welfare and your worth.
Start replacing all negative thoughts and doubts into positive beliefs of who you are and unleash your authentic self to the world! 🙂
Give yourself permission to ditch what is not working for you and create a world of healthy, loving and supportive relationships.
Let go of the lies and the disguise that has masked the story told by others and start writing your own script of self-fuelled possibilities.
Get back to that place of alignment minus the labels and roles that have defined and confined you most of your life. Learn and re-live you again and get comfortable with your own unapologetic needs and wants.
Go live your life in full vibrant colour through enriching and transformative no-hold back experiences. And if fear, uncertainty or doubt come knocking at your door, let them know in full Dolby surround-sound, you are NOT at home! 🙂
Kick fear, uncertainty and doubt to the curb and let them know unequivocally, you’ve got some living to do and will NOT be home anytime soon! They’ll get the message in no time leaving you to unleash the phenomenal, totally empowered version of you onto the world!
Change the view of you who you are from the inside out! Read more
How Self-Love Shows Up in Your Life
It is critically important that the journey you embark on is from a position of Self-Love because you want it to show up in every nook and cranny of your life.
Engaging in a love affair with yourself is the beginning of the most beautiful relationship you will ever experience.
Self-Love is kindness and acceptance turned inwardly. It is the colours of a rainbow and sunshine personified. The glass of Self-Love is full to the brim and celebrates a life lived on your terms!
When you love you, it creates the space for others to love you too and here are more ways Self-Love shows up in your life.
- Creative Freedom
You are free to expand your creativity through the arts, literature, dance, music, poetry, drama and other modes of creative expression.
- Energy and Vitality
You have an exorbitant amount of energy that is powered by your love of life. You use it generously to transcend and transform all areas of your life.
- Fun in the Sun!
You’re no stranger to fun and come rain, sleet or snow, you always wear a healthy glow! You shine your sparkle and bellow your laughter in full celebration of life!
- You Are Beautiful
You accept who you are and need neither apology or approval. This is when you truly become beautiful.
- Relationships Rock
You are love and supported by healthy relationships. Friends who want to see you fly and a mate who stands by your side! Even if you’re not in a relationship but find yourself in need, you won’t have far to go to find a friend indeed!
- Courageous Journey
This is perhaps the strongest indicator of Self-Love. You are not afraid to take risks because you rely on a powerful inner source that never lets you down. You trust and your internal reference point takes you courageously to the hilltops and the heavens of your self-created world!
- Simple Happiness
The most worthwhile investment is the one you make in Self-Love. It pays dividends and you derive your sense of joy from a twinkling star. You find moments of sheer delight in fluffy little shapes of cloud. You experience happiness as an inner state of being that has little to do with the goings on outside. Simplicity is perfection through your eyes!
I talk to many women who have lost themselves in the expectations of everyone else. They go round and round the merry-go-round of routine and every day feels the same. They are lost in the meaningless maze of mundane. They have forgotten who they are!
If this sounds remotely like you, it’s time to reclaim your personal power starting from today! Create your own life agenda and transform your world into amazing! 🙂
Maybe you need help getting started? I would love to help you on your way to greatness. As a Certified Life Coach I have helped clients find a deeper sense of meaning and purpose in their lives.
What would the best version of you look like? If money, your job or location were not an issue, where would you be on the spectrum of happy?
A journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step. I can help you take your first steps towards a fabulous rest of your life. Check out my Coaching Program and if you like what you see simply choose the Coaching Package that fits your need.
Self-discovery is the most beautiful journey you will embark on. I certainly have learned to love and accept who I am unconditionally. It’s ok when I make mistakes, or mess up, it’s ok when I cry and feel afraid. Self Love is my safe haven in these moments but also ensures I don’t get stuck there.
It provides a gentle and nurturing space for healing and self-forgiveness that matches with the loving vibration of the Universe.
I do hope you get this concept. Being hard on yourself is conflicting with your spiritual nature. You move further and further away from your Essential Being with acts of selfishness, hatred and hostility towards yourself and others.
You disconnect from the whole and become alienated from the shared humanity we all belong to.
Self-Love is your responsibility and your right.
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Be Blessed, Stay Beautiful x