We all have a story to tell!
Stories are created from the experiences of your past and are a collection of events that have helped shaped who you are today.
Your story might be colourful, captivating, fascinating and full of magic. Or on the other hand it might be dark, desolate, fearful and void of freedom. For most, it is a combination of the good and the not so good but non-the-less, your story tells the tale of your life.
But what makes one story different from the other? Children who are raised in the same family and share similar experiences for example tell their stories differently. Still others who seemingly have a good start in life tell a version, far removed from that good place.
It is the INTERPRETATION of your story that sets the stage on which you live the tragedy or the comedy of your life.
Your Interpretation Includes:
- The spin you put on the ever-changing circumstances that come your way.
- The way in which you consume and/or internalize stories and ideas that have been told to you by others.
- The platform of reality or perception from which you experience your life events.
- The meaning you attach to the occurrences that come knocking at your door.
Your interpretation is either from a negative place or a positive place. What you believe to be true about yourself determines the story of your life. If you believe the stories others have told you from a negative place or attach a meaning that is not in your best interest, you set the stage for tragedy after tragedy.
If on the other hand you choose to put a positive spin on an event, situation or circumstance and base it on what is ‘real’ and not some altered perception, then you are more likely to enjoy the ride of your life, with a good few laughs in between! 🙂
In this blog I attempt to challenge some of the old stories you may have been told about yourself The stories that keep you in self-doubt and darkness. The stories responsible for the limiting beliefs that neither serve you or give you space to shine.
What Are Some Of The Old Stories That Do Not Serve You? Do They Sound Like This?
- People don’t like me
- Everyone hates me
- I’m not good enough
- I don’t deserve to be happy
- I don’t deserved to be loved
- I will always be poor
- This always happens to me
- I will never succeed
- Things never work out for me
- I never have enough
- Life is always hard, tough or a struggle
- I’ll always be ugly
- It’s ok to be used and abused
- Everything’s hopeless
If you have read my about me page or Ebook you will know that my childhood was not the best. My mother was an alcoholic and my father was physically and verbally abusive. I grew up with a lot of dysfunction in my life.
However I was determined to break the abusive cycle and chose to put a ‘different spin’ on the circumstances of my life.
I ‘refused to internalize’ the stories my parents told me or to make their story’s mine.
I resolved to live from the ‘platform of reality’ to experience the events of my life. When a new circumstance came along, I gave it little or ‘no meaning’ unless it helped move my journey forward.
Of course it wasn’t something I did automatically. I learned skills and techniques, practiced and applied them on a regular basis until they became second nature. But the process did help me to remove the old stories that once featured strongly in my mind.
Today, if negativity shows up in my mind with thoughts such as ‘everything’s hopeless’ or ‘this always happens to me’, I look at what is positive about the situation, perhaps write a list of my options. In doing so it instantly blows the statement out of the water because actually, everything is not hopeless and here’s a list of the things that aren’t, thank you very much! 🙂
If the chatter of my mind says “Life is so hard, it’s such a struggle, why does it have to be so tough?’ I immediately go to one of my favourite quotes:
‘Life cannot be against you, for you are Life itself. Life can only seem to go against the ego’s projections, which are rarely in harmony with the truth.’ ~ Mooji
My ego’s projections are NOT in harmony with the truth and I change the chatter of my mind to: ‘life may be tough at the moment but the truth is I have grown and learned so much in these tough times’. ‘I have a deeper understanding of life and appreciate my relationship with it’. ‘Life is tough now perhaps, but the truth is, it wasn’t always and it won’t last forever’. Can you see how I choose to put a different spin on the circumstances that face me?
You can do so too. You can separate yourself from the old stories that have become entrenched in your mind. You can change the narrative and attach a different meaning. You can change the filters of your mind and reposition the segments that are real, whilst getting rid of the ones that are not.
It is a process but it does start with YOU, so if you’re ready to change the chatter in your mind here are:
5 Reasons to STOP Believing Your Old Stories
- They Don’t Belong To You
Most of the stories you carry around are not only excess baggage, they’re somebody’s else’s excess baggage! The ‘stuff’ others have ‘dumped’ on you which you had little or no say about. The stories usually stem from the unresolved pain of your parents or family who not knowing any better, transfered them on to you.
- They Are NOT True
The perception of yourself has unfortunately been tainted and discoloured. Usually it is due to the spectacles from which you view the world. What you see has become dull and dim. But what if you exchanged your old spectacles for brand new ones? The world has not changed but your perception of it, through different lenses, has. The dismal grey view you thought was real, is now being seen in full HD colour through your swanky new spectacles!
- They Prevent You From Shining Your Sparkle!
The old stories of your mind have landed you in one negative situation after the other. It translates as anger, disappointment, resistance and restricts the natural flow of life. The shine that lies within wants to sparkle but your negativity stops it from doing so. When you flip the script of your mind it opens a whole new horizon that supports your radiant new shine!
- You Are Not Your Mind
‘The greater part of human pain is unnecessary. It is self-created as long as the unobserved mind runs your life. ~ Eckhart Tolle
As long as you continue to identify with the compulsive thoughts of your mind your story will always remain the same. You are NOT your mind and when you step back from the endless stream of tormented thoughts, you discover a reality that lies beyond your mind. Your old stories cease to be and have no power in your life. In a state of mental quietude you remain connected to an infinite source that is only available in the moment of NOW.
- You Deserve To BE Free
The more you hold on to your old stories, the more you are enslaved by them. Your stories gather greater and greater momentum as your go through life.
Their destructive façade’ becomes home to your thoughts, judgements, ideas, preconceptions, words, labels and definitions. Their stranglehold keeps you in despair, darkness and isolation.
You deserve to break the cycle that has kept you chained to your old thoughts, patterns and behaviours.
You deserve to see life through colorful eyes. To enjoy the whisper of your heart and the wonders of your life.
You deserve to be free and explore the furthest spheres of your inner and outer world. You deserve the pleasures of healthy relationships that surround you with fun, joy and laughter.
You deserve to know how beautiful you are and that the world is better because you are in it!
If you have not done so already, it is time to archive your old stories. To banish them to the deep recesses of your mind where they belong. To replace them with new and vibrant stories that fill you up with life-enriching experiences.
I know how difficult it can be to break the cycle of limiting beliefs and change the thought patterns of your mind. I realized the need to do so when the old stories no longer served and supported me.
As a Life Coach, I can help you with strategies and techniques to create a happier and healthier life. If you would like to become empowered and live a more meaningful life, I would be happy to assist you.
Simply drop me a line using the contact us form to tell me a bit more about yourself and what you would like to be coached on. Or if you prefer to get started right away, choose a Coaching Package that suits your requirements and complete the Coaching Form.
Yes! change can be that simple! The journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step!
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