How many of you are guilty of talking about what you want, dreaming about what you want but not actually doing enough to go after what you want?
We’ve all been guilty of it at some time or another, so what is it about setting goals that makes us want to bury it in the very back of our mind?
Back in the good old days when life seemed less of a challenge and perhaps you weren’t so jaded, setting goals was much more natural and felt easier to achieve.
You did all the time without thinking about it like making sure your homework assignments were submitted on time.
Signing up for the gym or keeping fit in other ways. Setting goals towards your profession or career.
And even relationship goals that landed you that special person to share your life with.
So what is it today that stops you from setting goals? Perhaps it’s something to do with your age?
Not if you’re Bill Gates or Oprah Winfrey who continue to climb higher and higher in the different aspects of their lives, pushing the frontiers and achieving phenomenal success.
Maybe you’ve been jaded by the hard knocks and the long deep valleys? Not if you’re Harland David Sanders who tried 1009 times to sell his chicken before landing a place not only on your lunch table but as the famous finger lickin’ chicken we know today as KFC!
Here’s some fun insights on famous people who took a while to make it!
Even though these individuals went on to become a household name, there are thousands of ordinary people who have achieved great success and are living the life they once, could only imagine.
So why does it matter that Michael Jordan was kicked off his basket team or that J.K Rowling was once a depressed divorcee raising her child all by herself?
Because there is a common link that binds successful people together. They have a way of doing things and a way of thinking that sets them apart from the norm.
They are not particularly clever, gifted or even privileged but they do all set goals. Setting goals is the one vehicle that takes you from where you are to where you want to go and is the reason why it is so fundamental to your success.
And when I talk about success, I don’t just mean in terms of your career, business or profession. Setting goals is the vehicle to success in your relationships, your health and even bringing meaning and purpose to your life.
So let’s look at the How part of Setting Goals
You know what it’s like, you’re lying on the bed fantazising about being filthy rich and travelling to new and exotic places. Your imagination takes you to the French Riviera where you shop till you drop and sip tequila for afternoon tea! 🙂
Great fantasies but looking at the HOW part of setting goals will separate them from the fleeting fancies of your mind. This is important because in learning to set goals, a psychological shift takes place that quite literally raises the stakes and puts your goals on the map!
How to Set Goals
- Make a Decision
“All things are created twice. There’s a mental or first creation, and a physical or second creation to all things” ~ Stephen Covey
Yes it is that easy! You start with making a mental decision about what you want to achieve. You make an emotional commitment to yourself and your mind becomes the fertile soil to which you plant the seeds of success.
- Write Them Down
Writing down your goals is invaluable in two ways:
- It holds you accountable.
- It objectifies your intent.
Committing your goals to paper is personified by the nagging voice in your head that holds you accountable to your now tangible goal. Yes once it’s ‘out there’, it becomes ‘real’, and you are much more likely to make a lasting commitment to your goal.
- Enlist The Help Of A Friend
Enlisting the help of a friend can be useful to raise the stakes of your goal. If you’ve ever shared a dream or a goal with someone, you may notice its obligating quality? You’re more motivated to achieve it if for no other reason, than to save face! This can be a powerful incentive when it comes to setting goals.
- Invest in a Life Coach
Investing in a Life Coach is probably the best way to help you set and achieve your goals. A Life Coach plays the role of helping you clarify goals that are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-bound. They will hold you accountable and support you to step into action as you move your goal forward.
This what the Public Personnel Management, study 1997 had to say about coaching:
‘When training is combined with coaching, individuals increased their productivity by an average 88% as compared to 22% with training alone.’
Read more about what you can expect from a Life Coach
Now that you’re familiar with the why’s of setting goals and you’re clearer about how to set goals, the question remains,
Why do you need to Set Goals NOW?!
- Setting Goals Sets The Scene
“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.” – Bill Copeland
If you’ve spent years and years mulling over an idea or a dream that looks great in your mind, then goal setting is the next action step to set the scene in real life. Setting goals NOW creates the mental footbridge that gives clarity to your vision and leads to a clearly defined destination.
If you don’t set goals NOW your ideas and dreams will gather cobwebs in the dark closet of your mind. How sad will that be, not just for you but for others who could benefit from the gifts and talents your bring to the world!
- Setting Goals Moves You Forward
“A goal is a dream with a deadline.” ~ Napolean Hill
Setting goals is all about taking action. Each action step moves you closer to your goal. If you don’t set goals NOW, you will remain stuck and dissatisfied. Moving forward is the natural propensity of the human species and imbues you with a sense of achievement and satisfaction.
Without goals there is nothing to measure yourself against. One year pretty much resembles the next and without a bench mark, your whole life could just pale into insignificance.
Setting goals will A, B C your way to your deadline, one step at a time!
- Setting Goals Puts You In The Driving Seat
“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” – Jim Rohn
When you are in the driving seat of your own life, road trips are a lot more colourful! 🙂
Unless you set goals NOW your view of life will always be from thick-rimmed black and white spectacles. You will feel powerless and jaded. All your tomorrows will feel pretty much feel like yesterday, with little or no meaning.
Setting goals allows you to design the colour, contour, tone and dimension of your life with your personal power stamped all over it!. You need to set them NOW before your eyes become dull and grey and you can no longer distinguish from your multi-coloured palette.
- Setting Goals Stretches You To The Highest Peaks
Set your goals high, and don’t stop till you get there. ~ Bo Jackson
Continuously setting goals gets you out of your comfort zone and propels you to the highest peaks where you enjoy a birds eye view of life!
When you push the frontiers of your life not only do your reach your full potential, you do so with a bit more razzle and dazzle! You look forward to the next chapters with thrill and excitement. You grow in all areas of your life and make better decisions because you are in a much better place.
You need to set goals NOW before the mundane, mundane drives you insane! Before you settle for mediocre and your plagued with the wudda, cudda shudda, and the what if’s in every mind gnawing thought!
Setting goals replaces self-imposed complacency with your fully-realized capacity!
- Set Goals With Laser Precision
When you have a single focal point to work towards you are more likely to reach that point.
You orient your entire being in that direction and you make a psychological and emotional investment to ensure you reach your destination.
Without a central focus you find your self somewhat floating around. You kill time with ad-hoc activities or even worse, no activity at all! You are easily distracted and waste an inordinate amount of time achieving very little. Your energy is dispersed in a multitude of directions except up!
You need to set goals to stop from spinning top in mud! Going round in round in circles has no beginning or end. You will start to resemble Jack of all trades and Master of none, if do not start to set goals NOW.
Setting goals will give you a greater sense of direction and with laser precision, your goals will be accomplished. You will triumph when you cross the finishing line that originated from a well-defined set of goals!
Most people are either not very good or simply do not set goals. You may have some vague idea about what you’d like to accomplish but have no road map to get there.
What would it mean for you to accomplish an important goal? Perhaps you want to lose weight, or live in another country, or find that special person to share your life with?
What would your life look like once your goal is accomplished? Can you image yourself with a smoking hot sexy body? Or sipping fresh lemonade on the verandah of your new home in the Caribbean. What about sharing a beautiful evening in front of a log fire wrapped in your partner’s arms?
All of this and more is possible but like any journey you take in life you need an action plan that includes setting goals.
“You need a plan to build a house. To build a life, it is even more important to have a plan or goal.” – Zig Ziglar
As a Life Coach I have helped clients step into action and create the change necessary for a better life. Coaching is a partnership that honours your values and creates a safe space for your full expression. It is a collaborative process that helps you align your goals with who you are so that you become empowered and expand your quality of life.
I would love to work with you and help you generate strategies and solutions to achieve your goals.
If this sounds like a good fit, please use the contact us form to drop me a line and let me know what you would like to be coached on. Read more about the role of a Life Coach and see what package meets your requirements.
Don’t let your life aimlessly pass you by. Life is so short and before you know it you’re counting down to the golden years! As you get older you don’t regret the things you did, you regret the things you didn’t do!
By that time it’s too late and all you can do is wish you took that step or set those goals to achieved the things that really mattered to you.
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